Changing the Water of Life. Surviving it meant that you were
a Reverend Mother. It was the process in which, you could lose your life if you
failed to turn the waters. Using a very deep metaphore, F. Herbert tought me
the essence of human relationships, of feelings; or most of them, anyway.
Every day we turn many cups of the Life’s Water into living,
into Being and staying Alive. When we fail to turn the Waters, we don’t instantly
die like the Reverend Mothers did. The water becomes poison and it starts to
kill. Depending of how big this failure is, the poison is more lethal. It can
act in a single moment or in 30 years.
The process that Humans go through is that of turning the
Love they feel. The Water of Life is the Feeling of Love we all have flowing
inside us, our celestial blood that feeds and animates all.
This feeling of Love can be both Water and Poison. It all
depends on the choice we make about the direction in which we send this tremendous
energy. On one side we have the Poison: Clinging to something or someone, hatred,
jealousy, envy, vanity, exacerbated ego, fear, depression, whining, and the
list can go on like that, unfortunately for a long time. On the other we have
Water: Detachment, finding childlike joy
in everything, letting go when that is necessary. This last one sums up a lot
of tests we fail as Human beings interacting with each other.
Hearing both stories in a situation when a couple argues can
provide one with invaluable information about that went wrong and when and how
to prevent that the next time the situation may occur. If you look carefully
enough you will see the exact moment of turning. Put your imagination to work
and you may even hear the sound the poison makes when it starts to tell the
cells inside to tear.
We keep viewing time in a linear fashion. We designed the
concept as an “as if it were from A to B" in order to put things better into
formulas, and then we started to take our own make belief representation for
granted. And then, we do an even more awkward thing: we start to get angry
about it, and we stay angry for it, a long time, long enough to kill the vessel
we occupy. We commit suicide over it. How foolish we must seem to the other
galaxies and universes. Tough job to be on this side of the Creation. You come
in, you emit ridiculous inaccurate nonsense and then you commit suicide over
the fact that it doesn’t work.
It’s like shooting yourself in the leg before you start a
running competition. So inefficient. And God is the most efficient person I
know. Seek the necessary in life. Seek the REAL necessity of that thing in your
life and then evaluate the efficiency of your actions.
Always ask yourself: Do I really NEED, NOT WANT, but need
that in my life? And if I do, how efficient are my actions, my feelings, my thoughts in
that sense?
Remember that clinging on to a person is not efficient. It
only stops both of you in a puddle of mud with slight inflexions of light that
delude you into believing it’s sunny outside. Let go! If you love the other one
as you claim to, then let your love be real and let both of you go separate ways for a while.
And this is where the hell begins. “A while”. Any and every
lover on this planet has feared at one point that this “a while” will turn into
forever, an unbearable thought, incredibly painful and sad. Newsflash! Nobody
knows what is going to happen next! It has not been written yet.
And the thing
is that you write it. With your thoughts about situations that have yet to
come. Remember? All those little scenarios each of us constructs in the brain,
the ones where we reinact situations and say what we actually wanted to, and do
what we should have and all that. Well, we rarely stop at reviving the past.
Usually, every scenario like this develops into “if I did this and that then
life would look like this and that”. And that is what life actually becomes. A
collage of all that.
So keep your scenarios as much optimistic and childlike
possible. Let the good guy always win, let the boy and girl actually find true
love, let the people overcome peril and disease. Keep the Water from turning
into Poison.
Give yourself and your loved one the opportunity, the gift of inner growth. If, at any time you notice the growth stopping then let go! Love the person you are with enough to make sure they always grow in your presence. And if your presence prohibits that in any way then put distance between. It cures. It brings back to life emotions you can taste again.
